I am sharing a photo on my blog every day for the month of August, as a part of Susannah Conway?s August Break.
I saw this pink hard hat at the costume store and knew I had to have it.? I have an inner critic who likes to collect safety gear.
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In this video I dive into a question I received from Louise, a lovely portrait artist who has:
And so she feels frozen and unsure about how to move forward with her dreams.
We've all felt this way.
Learning how to deal with this stuff is your Most Important Work, when it comes to bringing your dreams to life.
Watch it now:
This video is from 2012. The kit I mentioned is the Transform your Inner Critics, Fears and Doubts Kit.
Now (in 2014) this kit has been transformed into the Un-Sticking Station, which you get inside the Creative Dream Circle. It helps you transform ANY block you find on the path to your dream. I know that sounds crazy but it absolutely works. You have the power to shift this stuff, you just need the right tools.Click here to join the Circle today.
I also mentioned the "Top Posts For When Things Suck", here they are :
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The reason why you think you're not getting started is not (usually) the real reason. Understanding why it's so hard to get started helps you find a way around the obstacle.
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Eight months ago I received a letter about my pension plan at my former job.? More of a package than a letter, with a ton of stuff to read through and a decision to make about what to do with my pension money now that I am no longer contributing to the pension plan.
I looked at it at the time and it started to wake up too many inner critics and fear goblins so I noted that there was no deadline on it – and just filed it away.
And in the eight months since – every time I thought about dealing with it, my inner critics and fear goblins got so riled up I just put it aside again.
They had a lot of stories about how complicated and time consuming and stressful and annoying it would all be.
About how I’d probably have to go down to their office and explain my situation to someone.
Which is the Absolute Last Thing I want to do.
“Hello, Pension Planner Person.? I quit my solid good paying nice job to play with glitter and sell magic on the internet. And no, I don’t want to stay in this pension plan.? I have magic on my side!”
So, yeah, lots of things to avoid and not want to deal with there.
About how I don’t fit in and no one will understand me.
And how my financial decisions are ridiculous.
Etc, etc, etc.
So I stayed away from the whole thing and over time, as the past eight months went by, the stories became more and more real.
And finally this week I decided to make it a priority and do whatever I had to do to get this settled.? I did remember somewhere there that some money was going to come to me when I sorted this out.? And the money would be handy right now as move into my Dream Loft.
So I quieted my inner critic and opened up the package and this time read it in detail.
Oh.
Basically, I can take my money out whenever I want or I can leave it in and draw a pension when I retire.? That part is all cool.? I don’t have to make any life-long decisions right now.
And there’s some extra money, money that is not a part of the plan and is actually mine and needs to come back to me at some point.
So the reason why they wanted a response from me is just to send me money.
Money that would more than pay for the really super cute appliances I’ve been thinking about getting for my new place.
It took 5 minutes.? All I had to do was fill in the form and send it back.
And now I wait for my cheque while deciding which colour I want for my cute new fridge.
They hold us back in ways that are so hidden we can’t even see that we are being held back.
Things look so hard but really they aren’t.
All these things you think you can’t do – you can do them.
You just have to stop believing the stories your inner critic is telling you.? And then all sorts of things become possible.
And then, you can take it a step further by getting your inner critic on your side.? And then the real magic can start.
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Every Monday morning I take my business out for coffee with this Creative Genius Planning Session tool that I made.
This tool has served me well.? Very well.
Everything keeps flowing towards more of what I want and love because I have this Genius Plan.
But this Monday Morning was different.
This morning I was really short on energy.? I had one post-yoga bubble of sunshiny energy and then it just kind of faded away.? And by the time I got to the coffee shop for my Monday Morning Creative Genius Planning Session I needed a Very Large Latte just to get started.
This morning I’m in a low energy kind of space.? And it feels like I need some quiet time.
And the intuitive messages I am getting from my business are that it needs some space.? To just be.
But I have this thing I’m working on.
This thing I am totally excited about and inspired about.
I’m not good at holding things in.? Or waiting.? When I’m inspired – I leap.
So here I am at my Monday Morning Creative Genius Planning Session:
Inspired and wanting to leap
Also tired and wanting to rest.
There is a part of me that is pretty much always excited about something and wanting to move forward with it.
There is a part of me that pays attention to and honours the natural cycle of life and wants to rest when it’s time to rest, play when it’s time to play and work when it’s time to work.
(MWR = me who rests.? MWLA = me who leaps ahead)
MWLA: I’m going to put this sparkly new exciting thing out there next week, so this week we have to do all of these things to get it ready.? Plus, of course, we want to re-write all of week four for the Creative Journal Magic e-Course.
MWR: Agreed on week four for the Creative Journal Magic e-Course.? Not a re-write but edit and make a lot of changes.? That’s really the only focus for this week.? That other thing – that has to wait.? Working on that now is not in keeping with the energy of where we’re all at this week.
MWLA: But I want to do it!
MWR: We all want to do it!? How about we do it one week later though?
MWLA: A WHOLE WEEK?? YOU WANT ME TO WAIT A WHOLE WEEK?? ARRRRRGGGGHHH? NOOOOO!
MWR: What is really so bad about waiting?
MWLA: I hate waiting.? I hate resting.? I want to DO.? I made this amazing thing!? I want to share it!? OMG LET ME SHARE IT!!!!!
MWR: Yes but what about sharing it one week later?? What would actually happen if you waited one week?
MWLA: I’d have to rest this week.
MWR: And?
MWLA: Oh.? I guess I want to leap ahead because it’s more comfortable than slowing down and being present with what is.? Mmmmmmmmm.? Something here scares me.? And if I slow down it’s bound to catch up with me.
MWR: What do you think that could be?
MWLA: The usual stuff.? What if everything falls apart.? What if people don’t like me.? Blah blah blah.? I’m kind of tired of all that bullshit and I’d like to just carry on.
MWR: See, I think carrying on kind of magnifies everything.? Ignoring fears does not transform them.? It leaves them there, beneath the surface, where they can grow and wreak havoc.
MWLA: I know you’re right but I wish you weren’t.
MWR: Remember what happened earlier this month?
MWLA: Deliberately stopping and being with all of that annoying bullshit actually propelled us forward, closer into what we want.? I thought that was a one time thing, I didn’t agree to doing that all the time.
MWR: Not all the time. Only when it’s needed.
MWLA:? Arrrgh!? Do you know how annoying you are?? Only when it’s needed?? Who decides?
MWR: I think you can feel it too, that it is needed.? If it wasn’t you’d have the energy you need to go ahead and do what you want to do.? Also what about trusting in divine timing?? When has anything good ever come out of pushing ahead and doing things on your own terms instead of being in the flow?
MWLA: It could happen one of these times!? If I stop pushing.? OMG.? If I stop pushing and leaping ahead WE WILL STAGNATE.
MWR: So resting = stagnation?
MWLA: I guess not always.? But too much resting is definite stagnation.
MWR: Do you really think we are anywhere near stagnation?
MWLA: It’s just that I have all of these dreams and things I want and how will I ever get them all by resting?
MWR: How will you ever enjoy them all by not resting?
MWLA: You are so annoying!
MWR: I understand how important your creative dreams are to you.? They’re important for me too.
MWLA: We’re on the same page?? We want the same thing??? I always forget that part.? I always think you are like the grown up trying to keep me doing “The Right Thing” and keep me from having fun.
MWR: No. I don’t want to keep you from having fun.? And I don’t want to make you do stuff you don’t want to do.? But I do want to slow down and challenge your assumptions about constantly leaping ahead.? I want to be more rooted in purpose in a broader sense than you sometimes see.? We simply cannot always leap ahead just like we cannot always rest.? I have no interest in staying in the same place.? I have on interest in not making all of our dreams real.
MWLA: It’s like I’m the motor and you’re the steering wheel.
MWR: Yes!? I appreciate how your energy and enthusiasm propels us forward when that’s the right thing to do.
MWLA: And I appreciate how you’re looking out for the bigger picture and guiding us along.? We are doing amazing.? I’m sorry I make it so hard for you.? I’m just SO EXCITED, you know?
MWR: I do know.? And I’m excited too.
It’s 11am.? Usually Monday mornings are full of action here in the Creative Magic Art Room.? But this Monday morning – all I can think about is taking a nap.
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Jealousy fucking sucks.
And it becomes so easy to start thinking...
it's so easy for her
everything is just handed to them
it's not fair
It becomes easy to start comparing. To start freaking out.
To start wondering if you really are good enough to make this happen.
Ouch.
Jealousy can let loose a massive tidal wave of energy and "stuff".
And when you're in it, it's anything but pleasant.
But it's also pretty unavoidable.
Hello! There are billions of us on this planet. Others are bound to have what you want.
Just like you are bound to have things that other people want.
Jealousy, like any other feeling, has a lot to teach you, if we are willing to work with it.
If you are open to learn from it.
Sometimes jealousy can be a great big surprise - sometimes you didn't even know you wanted something until you saw someone else get it.
Sometimes you kinda knew, but were keeping it a buried just beneath the surface. Until so-and-so got it.
And now it's not so beneath the surface anymore
It's right up in your face that you want this thing that someone else just got.
This is good because the odds of you getting what you want raise dramatically when you are willing to admit you want it.
But looking deeper than that... jealousy can steer you towards where your own stuff is getting in the way of your success.
When you start really exploring it, your jealousy shines a light on your limiting beliefs. The places where you hold yourself back.
To start really exploring it, ask yourself:
Who are you jealous of? Why?
How does it feel?
What does it say about you?
And by ask yourself I mean really ask yourself. Spend some time with them and the answers and the feelings they spark.
Who are you jealous of? Why? Of course this shows you more about what you really want.
How does it feel? What does that say about you? Now this is where it starts to get interesting.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such and it makes me feel like I am never going to get it for myself.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such and now there is less for me.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such and now if I get it people will think I am copying her.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such and it makes me feel like I must be stupid and hopeless because I haven't figured out how to get it yet.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such so she must be better at it than I am.
If you think someone else getting what you want makes it less likely that you will ever get it - this is showing you that you hold a belief in lack. There isn't enough to go around. Working on shifting this belief will help you be less stuck with your dreams.
If you think someone else getting what you want is a sign that you are stupid or hopeless or anything - this is showing you the places in you where you don't really believe that you are good enough. Working on shifting this belief will help you be less stuck with your dreams.
You may or may not be aware of these beliefs, they may be sub-conscious or not - doesn't really matter. Jealousy is bringing them to light. You see them now. One you see them, they are ready to be healed and shifted into beliefs that are going to nurture and support you.
Whatever it is, it is holding you back.
And it only pops up above the surface when it gets stirred up by something like jealousy.
So having it be up here on the surface where you can see it is actually a huge gift.
Because you can learn about it and change it and heal it and when you do, you open up more space inside you for your creative genius.
I did a free healing circle and inner work workshop where I lead you through the process of working with your fear.
Try it today:
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