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Creative Dreaming in hard times

The last year + has been really difficult for me and lots of times I thought... I should stop posting here. Like - get my shit together ALONE SOMEWHERE... THEN come out and share.

But my whole thing with the Creative Dream Incubator is to share ways to work with our dreams... TO GUIDE US. Because our dreams are a way that our souls show us our path.

So why would we stop receiving that guidance in the times when we need it the most?

It's our fucked up culture that says that creative dreaming is for when you feel strong, bold, sure and creative.

Creative dreaming is for everyone. All the time.

You don't have to be strong or feel capable or have your life going exactly right so that you have all the time, space and support you need.

AND my whole thing with the Creative Dream Incubator is to share the whole thing AND to say... we are stronger together. We can do this together.

So, hiding away when I feel stuck and then coming out to share my victories has never felt right to me.

AND sometimes it just feels awkward AF to keep sharing as I go in circles.

I just wanted to acknowledge that.

If you're creative dreaming in hard times - here is the "Things are bad!" section of the map with some thoughts, tools and approaches to try.

I do feel strong and capable right now. I also want to acknowledge that.

It's so complicated to be in a body sometimes! But I feel like I'm adjusted to the hormone replacement therapy, I have new supplements and I'm getting shiatsu massages which feel like they massage my SOUL along with my body and with all of this going on I FEEL GOOD.

I am working on two things:

Goodbye 2024 Hello 2025: Guided journal, Goodbye 2024 Releasing Ceremony (Dec 13) + Hello 2025 Blessing Ceremony (Jan 17). All three are happening in the membership, but you can also get the journal on its own. (More details next week) (Call times are at 1:00 Central, North America)

Creating a right-fit transformative/healing year-long creative/spiritual project: Maybe that's the title, maybe I will find an easier title as I work with it 🤣 but I am doing a year-long project with HOPE for 2025 and as I sort through HOW I want to do this, I am creating a workbook to share the process.

It will be VERY customizable - if a year isn't the right-fit time for you, you just change that. 30 days, 100 days, a season - whatever time frame works for you is perfect. The goal is to set it up in such a way that it supports you in getting what you want from your project.

My project for 2025 will be the YEAR OF HOPE. And I'll be sharing that regularly on my blog - I feel like practicing hope can teach us all a lot right now.

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You are acting from self doubt or self belief. Pick right.

This was a message I got in a meditation.

IT. IS. THIS. SIMPLE.

It's not whether or not you FEEL self doubt, but what you ACT FROM.

When you feel self doubt: tend to that feeling INSTEAD OF acting out of it.

Tools from the Creative Dream Incubator Membership:

Self Doubt Relief

Alchemy Process for working with Self Doubt

Alchemy Process for bolstering your sense of courage

Your Self Doubt Is Not Yours You Deserve To Believe In Yourself 

Slow the fuck down! BE as powerful, creative and magnetic as you ARE

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A really difficult conversation with my frustration

I am so frustrated. I feel so anxious. And then I tense up. I don’t believe in myself or any of my ideas.

And then I get frustrated with myself for how I am feeling and how I am reacting to my feelings.

But reacting well… like saying “Oh honey I’m sorry you feel this way, what do you need?” feels annoying. Like I HAVE DONE SO MUCH OF THAT I CAN’T DO IT ANY MORE.

I went for a bike ride. I distracted myself with various things. And still this pit of self doubt is here, wreaking all sorts of havoc.

But I want to do this thing. I have moments of really believing in it. But whenever I go to take action - I freeze.

And I am a really good coach, I know how to guide people through this and I know how to guide myself through this but I AM JUST SO FUCKING SICK OF EVEN FEELING THIS.

So today I am trying the Un-Sticking Station with that “I AM JUST SO FUCKING SICK OF EVEN FEELING THIS” voice.

So, hi there I AM JUST SO FUCKING SICK OF EVEN FEELING THIS.

It’s my teenaged self sitting there, looking very annoying at being called into this boring meeting.

Oh hi! Thanks for meeting me here.

Did I have a choice?

I don’t know, but I appreciate you being here. 

She leans forward. “WHY ARE YOU BEING LIKE THIS?”

I don’t really know, I am trying to figure it out.

“You have everything! Look at your loft! And your business! And this cute idea for this thing you want to do! Why don’t you just do it?”

I know. I mean. Well…

She rolls her eye “You don’t feel good”

Well, I don’t! I feel like my struggles with perimenopause are so invisible and I also feel like I talk about it too much, but come on MY BRAIN ISN’T WORKING RIGHT.

So fix it.

Ugh. You sound like my ex-husband when he was at his worst. When he was over capacity with his own struggles and couldn’t empathize with mine.

You want me to empathize with you?

Yeah, I guess.

You called me here to empathize with you? (Her tone of voice suggests that she can't believe I am asking her for empathy)

Actually no, I called you here to find out more about what you need.

Ok that’s much more interesting. I need you to stop being all tied up inside, just do all the things you want to do.

OK, why? What would that give you?

Satisfaction of seeing how I turned out.

You don’t like how I turned out when I am anxious?

It’s really hard to watch.

Yeah, I get that!

You do?

Of course!

I thought you wanted to just use anxiety as an excuse to not do anything.

Of course not! I want to do all the things I want to do!

Oh…

This fizzled away there, it's unresolved but I can feel something shifting.

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Practicing Hope

I had a different post ready to go for today, but in light of this week's election results in the US it didn't feel right.

For the last week and a half I have been focused on HOPE.

I have been brainstorming a "hope practice" to add to the Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership for 2025. Because hope is the foundation for all dreams.

This felt so relevant and important, even before the election results when I actually thought Harris would win.

Now it feels vital.

Without hope, there is no hope.

Without hope, there is no possibility of change.

Without hope, nothing new can be created.

And hope can be surprising easy to practice.

Meal prepping some mason jar salads is hope.

Buying that journal is hope.

Making space in your life for your dreams is hope.

Asking myself... what can I do to support myself in having a more optimistic mindset is hope.

Looking around in your community to see who needs some help is hope.

And most importantly right now, making sauce to feel your actual feelings is hope.

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Meeting with the soul of the Creative Dream Incubator

Today I am meeting with the soul of my business, using the meditation from the Creative Business Incubator course. I want to ask it about this new project idea I have for 2025.

This did NOT go AT ALL how I thought it would!

I ask it about my project idea and I just feel like it says… You have already decided to do this on your own.

That feels uncomfortable. But... OK I see that. AND. I do want to collaborate with you. I feel I have been, but in ways I don’t see or understand.

Yes, I have been collaborating with you. I have different needs and preferences than you do.

Does this idea take your needs and preferences into account?

It’s more important right now to take YOUR needs and preferences into account. You’ve had a difficult time, and you need what you need to feel like you’re back on solid ground.

Oh. What I am looking for from you is a guarantee that this will give me the outer results I want.

Yeah, that’s not what I am here for.

I sit with this.

It’s not like I don’t care about your needs, as I said. It’s just that… this isn’t what I am here for.

What are you here for?

To BE the Creative Dream Incubator. To be a force for midwifing dreams into existence on this plane.

OK but… and I understanding right… you are not from this plane?

No, I am from the plane that the dreams come from.

Oh, you are helping from that side, too.

Yes, you don’t understand all that I do.

Is what I am doing getting in the way of what you are doing?

Sometimes, yes. But that’s due to the differences in our planes.

Oh, it’s like I couldn’t always do what you need because that would not take my needs into account in a way that would be destructive to me.

Yes, exactly. We work well together. Me on this plane, you on that plane. Everyone’s dreams in this plane. Everyone in that plane.

OK but what about the external outcomes I want? Where do I go for support on that, if not to you?

To get the external results you want you need to use your resources. I am one of them. 

Am I using you properly as a resource?

I think you should be more honest about why you are doing this meditation and what you want from me.

Hmmmm. Shit.

You can do this.

Well I appreciate that I don’t feel like you are shaming me, you are just stating that I am maybe a little conflicted inside about what my goal is here….

I am doing this because I want your blessing for this new idea.

You don’t need it. You are an independent, free and creative person. Follow your ideas.

I am doing this because I want you to tell me HOW to do this in a way that guarantees that I get what I want from it.

Yeah, I’m not a genie or a magic wand.

Right.

What you want to get from this is 100% valid though. I support this. It’s just - you’re looking for validation and guarantees from me, I can’t give either of those.

Ok I can validate this idea. I do like that I checked with you to see if it seems like a terrible idea to you.

(And then I remember a meeting I had with my business about some classes I was teaching that paid really well but my business was like “I won’t stop you but no I don’t like it” and I see how those classes didn’t do anything FOR MY BUSINESS but I enjoyed doing them and they did make me good money that I needed - so it was right for me to do them AND it was right for the soul of my business to not be into them. We have different needs, we don’t have to agree on everything)

This isn’t like those classes, right?

Right, I’m happy you are happy about this. It’s not like I think we need this particular thing. There are lots of ways for me to shine my purpose into the world. You are the one doing the creative and practical work, so those parts need to be interesting to you. This idea seems like it fits the bill.

I am still a little perturbed by how the soul of my business is not being more reassuring. And recognizing that this is coming from the part of me who seeks external validation, who wants something/someone outside of me to make me feel safe, secure, like everything will be ok. These things are all my job.

Is there a way that you, the soul of the creative dream incubator, would change this idea if it was all up to you?

Oh that’s a good question! Sitting back, looking at what this project hopes to accomplish and how it fits in with what is already happening in the membership…  yes this feels needed, there are other ways to do it but there is nothing wrong with this way.

You came here looking for my blessing on this?

Yes, and to kind of disaster-proof my process with this as much as possible.

I don’t think it will be a disaster. It might not be as successful as you hope, but it might be more! This idea seems solid, you are reflecting on past wins and loses, what kinds of approaches have and have not worked for you, what feels needed and relevant now…  both for you personally in your process with how you will deliver this AND in terms of business stuff.

OK I feel reassured. There are no guarantees. But I am going to give this my best shot.

And I feel like I FELT the part of this that feels important for the soul of my business - the essence/quality that it would add to the Creative Dream Incubator membership - and I will hold onto that as a special part of this project.

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My creativity is without limits

Every Monday I get a new Creative Dream Mantra from the  journaling + alchemy kits that are a part of Dream Book. This week I got: My creativity is without limits

Use the meditation for the weekly mantras to dig in deeper to the mantra, or put your hands on your heart and take five deep slow breaths and repeat to yourself:

My creativity is without limits

Notice where this lands in your body, what thoughts and feelings get sparked.

There is no right or wrong way to react. But your actual thoughts and feelings can tell you something about what you need right now.

If My creativity is without limits feels good and encouraging, hold it with you this week. Look at problems, questions, stucks and obstacles through this lens and see what ideas it brings.

If it brings up some discomfort - that’s your stuff to work on.

Your creativity actually IS without limits. Both in terms of whatever art you want to create and in terms of how you create your life and what is possible for you.

The places where you FEEL limited are pointing you to the things you need to work on.

To do that work, in the Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership we’ve got the un-sticking station and the library of inner work practices. If you’re not sure what practice to use, you can email me, or post in our forum, let me know what’s going on and I will make some suggestions for tools you can use.

What comes up for me:

First I notice that I drew this with two hands holding a broken heart... I remember thinking about the healing power of creativity when I was drawing this. And now here I am, with a heart that is broken but healing.

I've been doing so much journaling lately - painting and drawing and processing my feelings. It feels SO healing. Divorce is so intense, and it's such an incredible opportunity for healing. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by this but lately I feel really grateful to be where I am.

And I am feeling that LIMITLESSNESS of creativity. Not like it's pushing me to want to "be bigger", just enjoying this sense that there is nothing in my way.

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Election Stress

Creative Dream Q+A time! If you have questions to add to this series, let me know! If you prefer to watch/listen I'll post a video of this on Instagram and Facebook today.

 

I’m Canadian, I am not in the US but election stress is coming up a lot on my group calls.

And a lot of countries are politically stressful right now. The state of the world is brutal and this stress impacts us and we need recognize that and take care of ourselves accordingly...

AND we have to hold onto our ability to hope for a better future.

If we can’t see a better future, we can’t participate in creating it.

Creative Dreaming is a practice, a skill, a muscle that gets stronger the more you use it. This is the time!!

And I know it’s hard.

But it’s actually our only option.

We have to find whatever little ways we can to hold onto the light, to hold onto a sense that there is a future worth working for.

Adjusting to some new medication, I am in the heaviest depression I have ever experienced. And this morning I had headphones on and I’m listening to A Beautiful Chorus to try to fill my brain with something optimistic and beautiful, and my cat was watching me and he looked like he was ready to play, so I started dancing.

At first it felt ridiculous, like here I am just feeling so heavy and depressed, dancing in this really exaggerated way to entertain my cat, but a few minutes in, I started to actually feel good. My cat is running around the room, just loving this and I’m dancing wildly and at the end of the song I stop, out of breath, and I could feel my blood pumping, I could feel ALIVE.

That’s why I go for bike rides too. I’m not feeling all that alive unless I intentionally create that sensation for myself.

Creative Dreaming is a practice. Being optimistic about the future is a practice.

It’s really hard right now and it’s more important than ever that we keep practicing. 

And when it comes to politics, we need to practice TOGETHER. Democracy needs the participation of the people in order to survive. Voting is not participating, voting is bare minimum.

Using some of your time, energy, money towards creating the future you want to see can help with the stress. Doing what you can to change things always feels better than just sitting there waiting for disaster to strike.

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Making an Un-Sticking Station

I had "Dream Book time" and didn't know what to do - like nothing was really "in process" so I was kind of stumped.

(Once you've done the 2 years of Dream Book lessons, you get the "Dream Book oracle" which shows up in the menu in the sidebar on the Dream Book page - clicking it will take you to a random Dream Book process or lesson)

So I went to the Dream Book lesson checklist - since this is a new Dream Book I am still at the beginning with it. My next thing was: The Un-Sticking Station.

This page is meant to give you space to start exploring using the Un-Sticking practice to get unstuck... of course I use this practice all the time so I don't really need this page. But I wanted to create an Un-Sticking Station page to explore my relationship with Un-Sticking, in relationship specifically to the dreams I am working on now.

It's important to follow these bits of inspiration or insight that come up as a part of our process, "Oh I would like to..." Whatever it is, DO THAT. Find out where it leads!

You Build The Path By Walking means any step counts.

So, I don't know where I am going with this. I was listening to my intuition about what I wanted to put here, with he circle and the items around it (heaviness, sadness, this never works, self doubt + obstacles) and then the lines between them... and suddenly the Un-Sticking Station felt like a hammock or something... it would HOLD ME. Hold me in the truth - being present with these obstacles WHILE ALSO being present with the deeper truths of what I am capable of.

This feels good. And very much unfinished.

The other page is purple now because I was putting purple in a different journal, too much paint plopped out of my tube, and I try to keep the paint as thin as possible in these journals, so I was looking for another page to put the extra on, and this felt right. (I have a lot of paint pens which can write over paint so I can still journal on this page)

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I’ve been having a hard time with my Dream Self

I started a new Dream Self Page in my Dream Book for "being deeper in my creative and spiritual practices". I want to feel more creative and alive and I don't really know what this looks like yet.

This feels like an important part of my other dreams and also like a dream in itself, so I wanted to explore this version of me who is really DEEP in the practices. This version of me seems to NATURALLY get into her practices and not get distracted by other things the way I have been lately.

I started the page by giving in a title and put the date in the corner and... nothing.

I was a little annoyed with myself for putting the date in, because then I could see how long it had been without me coming back and doing anything with it.

At the two week mark, I started journaling about how it felt that I am so stuck with this. That this dream self seems so far away from me. I felt like I had failed... but then I journaled about how hard it's been to adjust to this medication I am on and how really - I AM DOING MY BEST.

And then I started thinking about how it doesn't matter what it looks like - I am doing AMAZING because I am showing up. It's fine to just bitch in your journal about how stuck you are, and doing so is so much better than avoiding your journal because you are stuck.

Then I started working on the Dream Self and it was amazing, it felt like I was really getting in touch with his part of me.

Then I started a list of things that can help me be this version of me more often.

And I noticed that I am doing a lot of these things, and there are ways I can be better at supporting myself, and new things to add to the mix.

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I take bold action in service to my dream

Every Monday I get a new Creative Dream Mantra from the  journaling + alchemy kits that are a part of Dream Book.

 This week I got: I take bold action in service to my dream.

Use the meditation for the weekly mantras to dig in deeper to the mantra, or put your hands on your heart and take five deep slow breaths and repeat to yourself:

I take bold action in service to my dream.

Notice where this lands in your body, what thoughts and feelings get sparked.

There is no right or wrong way to react. But your actual thoughts and feelings can tell you something about what you need right now.

How it lands for me:

First, it feels like an invitation. Then I immediately reflect on: am I being BOLD enough?

But really, ANY action is BOLD when it comes to your dreams.

And often, any action, even the tiniest little thing, actually FEELS bold because you're stepping out of "what is" and creating space for "what could be"

So, yes, I am being bold enough. We all are.

And then, I feel this wave of supportive energy. Like my actions are building a foundation that I can relax into.

Is relax the right word?

Like - I can trust myself to keep doing what I need to do, because I AM doing what I need to do. I am taking bold action in service to my dream. So this is bold action in service to my healing and self care, too.

It feels like an invitation and encouragement to KEEP GOING.

How does it land for you?

If I take bold action in service to my dream feels good and encouraging, hold it with you this week. Look at problems, questions, stucks and obstacles through this lens and see what ideas it brings.

If it brings up some discomfort - that’s your stuff to work on. To do that work, in the Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership we’ve got the un-sticking station and the library of inner work practices. If you’re not sure what practice to use, you can email me, or post in our forum, let me know what’s going on and I will make some suggestions for tools you can use.

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I set a clear intention but then the opposite happened

Creative Dream Q+A time! If you have questions to add to this series, let me know!

This came up on a group coaching call recently. And I said that this is something I had been meaning to write about on my blog because it happens SO often.

So imagine that you are here, where you are. And your dream is there, where it is. Between you..... are some outer and inner obstacles.

If you’re not facing your dream directly and committed to taking steps towards it, then you’re not really aware of those obstacles. I know you’re aware of some of them, and you’re like “Yikes! I don’t want to deal with that!” and so you’re not taking any action. But you’re actually NOT all that aware of what these obstacles are actually all about, you’re seeing them from a distance.

When you face your dream directly and begin to take steps towards it - you are actually moving yourself right into the obstacles. You don’t take one step and land in your dream, you take a step and land in the obstacle because that’s what’s between you and your dream.

Sometimes you land in the obstacle you knew about, sometimes you land in an obstacle you didn’t realise was there. Either scenario can be jarring. And it feels like the obstacle came to you but actually you went to it. You’re the one who made a move.

Being up close with this obstacle is progress towards your dream.

Avoiding the obstacles IS avoiding your dream.

Resources from the Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership:

The Obstacle Is The Way Through: alchemy meditation for transforming your obstacle

The Un-Sticking Station: the classic way to "un-stick" any stuck, or obstacle

Dream Plan Kit: to work on a plan to overcome the obstacle

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Unsticking Anxiety

This is from a few weeks ago when anxiety was my biggest obstacle.

There is some medical stuff going on causing this and it's already getting better and hope we will get it sorted in the next few months AND here I am in the meantime, with anxiety as a HUGE obstacle.

So I am taking it to the un-sticking station practice.

Hello, Anxiety.

Anxiety is a little round, I don’t know… like a circle stuffed animal but with arms and legs. Big fuzzy eyebrows.

I hug it and it softens a bit.

But my body feels uncomfortable.

Then I imagine the stuffed animal gets really big, and now it’s hugging me, and this is a little bit soothing.

Does anxiety want to comfort me?

Now my head hurts.

I want to feel creative and free. I want to do all these things I want to do. You are making this all really hard, like painfully hard - why?

In the medication I am crying, sobbing, asking anxiety to explain this.

It’s just a stuffed animal, sitting there.

And that's all that happened.

SITTING WITH an obstacle is always better than avoiding it. But sitting with it one time doesn't necessarily change it.

It's a practice, so we keep practicing. Over time YES sitting with the obstacles absolutely changes them. You can use the Un-Sticking Station, or The Obstacle Is The Way Through or other Inner Work practices. Doing ANYTHING AT ALL with it is always better than doing nothing.

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I wrote this in my journal + wanted to share…

I got to this part so I must be ready for this step

After I wrote it, it felt like a miracle.

Of course I did write this about a step I DID NOT feel ready for but... OMG YES. Why am I here if I am not ready for this step?

AND OF COURSE: Taking a rest, doing some research, asking for help… these are all valid next steps, especially when you get to a part where you’re not sure what to do with.

But… you got to this part because you are ready for this part.

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I believe in myself

Every Monday I get a new Creative Dream Mantra from the  journaling + alchemy kits that are a part of Dream Book. This week I got: I believe in myself

Use the meditation for the weekly mantras to dig in deeper to the mantra, or put your hands on your heart and take five deep slow breaths and repeat to yourself:

I believe in myself.

Notice where this lands in your body, what thoughts and feelings get sparked.

There is no right or wrong way to react. But your actual thoughts and feelings can tell you something about what you need right now.

How it lands for me:

I did the Your Self Doubt Is Not Yours You Deserve To Believe In Yourself class last month because of self doubt that kept coming up for me in my practice.

(Membership members can get that class here, it's also available outside of the membership, here)

Self doubt is something I keep experiencing and the more I work with it the more simple it becomes... self belief is a choice. But you have to keep making that choice.

So, right now, repeating I BELIEVE IN MYSELF to myself feels like a balm.

But a few months back, it felt stressful because there was so much for me to explore. And it's not like I had never explored self doubt in my life before that! So of course it feels frustrating to feel like "Oh here I am AGAIN with this self doubt bullshit" ...

...but it's not exactly the same bullshit, lol.

It's more like NEXT LEVEL SELF BELIEF is calling, and to answer that call, there are things to look at.

This happens SO OFTEN with Dream Work, in order to call in a thing, we need to work with it's opposite, too.

How does it land for you?

If I believe in myself feels good and encouraging, hold it with you this week. Look at problems, questions, stucks and obstacles through this lens and see what ideas it brings.

If it brings up some discomfort - that’s your stuff to work on. To do that work, in the Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership we’ve got the un-sticking station and the library of inner work practices. If you’re not sure what practice to use, you can email me, or post in our forum, let me know what’s going on and I will make some suggestions for tools you can use.

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Do I have to ____ if I want to succeed at ___?

Creative Dream Q+A time! If you have questions to add to this series, let me know! 

If you want to succeed at ______ then you have to ______.

The question I got was… Do I have to do video to succeed? I am better at connecting in person.

And the short answer is always no.

You don’t have to do what other people say. When it comes to your dreams, you are the only one who can build the path. Your ways of doing things are always best.

When it comes to unsolicited advice, always feel free to just reject it and never think about it again.

You didn’t ask for it, you don’t need to spend any time thinking about it. Especially if it’s advice that you don’t like, you can end up wasting a lot of energy being kind of upset about someone telling you to do this thing that you don’t want to do.

Don’t waste your energy on that, save your energy for building your path to your dream. Show them they’re wrong, that you didn’t need that unsolicited advice, you did it your way.

But if you did ask for advice, before you reject it, it’s good to understand WHY that was the advice that was given.

So, for example, if a business coach sees that people who do video have a better job at connecting with people to grow their businesses, then they may encourage you to do video.

So, if the video is meant to help you connect with people - what are you doing to connect with people instead?

It’s not enough to say - I don’t want to do video. You have to identify what you will do instead.

The person who asked me this question said that they connect better in person - so they need to look at how they are doing that, how to do more of it, and how to get better at it.

If you want a different result you generally have to take a different action. And often that different action is going to be uncomfortable at first. And sometimes, we reject advice because it makes us uncomfortable.

When you do that, you are letting your fear of your feelings control your life.

To make your dream happen, you need to be in control of your life - you as in your creative, intuitive and brave self, not your fearful self.

So for this person who asked about video and said that she connects better in person - if she’s not doing anything to seek out opportunities for in person speaking engagements and networking, then something is stuck there and her next steps are to look deeper.

Resources from the Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership:

Alchemy process for hearing your intuition to figure out if you are just avoiding discomfort or if it's true for you to not do the thing you don't want to do.

Dream Plan Kit to work on your plan for how you will make this thing happen!

Come dream with us

 

Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership members:

Come to the forum to share your thoughts or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.

Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.

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