Creative Dream Q+A time! If you have questions to add to this series, let me know!
If you want to succeed at ______ then you have to ______.
The question I got was… Do I have to do video to succeed? I am better at connecting in person.
And the short answer is always no.
You don’t have to do what other people say. When it comes to your dreams, you are the only one who can build the path. Your ways of doing things are always best.
When it comes to unsolicited advice, always feel free to just reject it and never think about it again.
You didn’t ask for it, you don’t need to spend any time thinking about it. Especially if it’s advice that you don’t like, you can end up wasting a lot of energy being kind of upset about someone telling you to do this thing that you don’t want to do.
Don’t waste your energy on that, save your energy for building your path to your dream. Show them they’re wrong, that you didn’t need that unsolicited advice, you did it your way.
But if you did ask for advice, before you reject it, it’s good to understand WHY that was the advice that was given.
So, for example, if a business coach sees that people who do video have a better job at connecting with people to grow their businesses, then they may encourage you to do video.
So, if the video is meant to help you connect with people - what are you doing to connect with people instead?
It’s not enough to say - I don’t want to do video. You have to identify what you will do instead.
The person who asked me this question said that they connect better in person - so they need to look at how they are doing that, how to do more of it, and how to get better at it.
If you want a different result you generally have to take a different action. And often that different action is going to be uncomfortable at first. And sometimes, we reject advice because it makes us uncomfortable.
When you do that, you are letting your fear of your feelings control your life.
To make your dream happen, you need to be in control of your life - you as in your creative, intuitive and brave self, not your fearful self.
So for this person who asked about video and said that she connects better in person - if she’s not doing anything to seek out opportunities for in person speaking engagements and networking, then something is stuck there and her next steps are to look deeper.
Resources from the Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership:
Alchemy process for hearing your intuition to figure out if you are just avoiding discomfort or if it's true for you to not do the thing you don't want to do.
Dream Plan Kit to work on your plan for how you will make this thing happen!
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